How assertive are you?

Do you have hard times saying no to others request? Is it difficult to express your feelings directly? 

Honestly, I do feel it sometimes; I have hard times expressing clearly my thoughts, what I want or what I need. I know it’s not good to be so submissive, your feelings are ignored and others took advantage of you. I have hard times also being assertive or just being too pushy about my own ideas and opinions cause I don’t want to hurt others’ feelings.  

Is being so non-assertive erroneous? I asked myself. Maybe I should be on the 50/50 part, well it answers my question. I took the How assertive are you test in psychology.com. Below is the result:
Being non-assertive is not that really bad though, it was like you're just being nice - haha! But I realized that you don't have to go on pretending that everything is okay when it's not. Being assertive is just being honest in a such a way that you have no intentions to hurt others' feelings. If you're clear to what you want or what you need, I'm sure others will respect it. 


To know what you prefer, instead of humbly saying Amen to what the world tells you, you ought to prefer, is to have kept your soul alive. Robert Louis Stevenson

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Comments

  1. Kira Permunian1/26/11, 9:51 PM

    I also suffer from this thing, it is difficult for me to express my feelings directly. I think I have to take on the test too. Thanks cha for bringing this up. I learned something from your post.

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  2. chachucho1/27/11, 6:28 AM

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    Hi Kira, yes you should take the test too :)
    the pleasure is mine kira, I'm glad you have learned something.

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  3. seifatima1/27/11, 7:14 AM

    hmmm?
    me too...aw
    basta cha...hehe
    dli ra man sad bad muinsist ta sa atong gusto sahay..as long as dili r sad t makasakit...:)
    tao r sad ta..naa sad t needs...:D

    mwah!
    aja gwapa...
    keep on posting..,^^

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  4. tabulyogang1/27/11, 7:57 AM

    yes chang..you can really learn something from this post. I used to be so vulnerable when it comes to things like this... I always say yes -to the point of sacrificing my own needs and happiness. But im glad im learning now. ehehe Assert Assert Assert. Be yourself no matter what they say. but be careful when they say ur being mean na kai lisod pd..ehehe

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  5. chachucho1/27/11, 8:45 AM

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    @ flor: yes, i'm sure maka understand pud ang uban that we have needs also :)

    thanks wafa, I'll be checking your blog, I love all your post.

    @shenani: agree, I have to be honest also this time but not to the point being rude. I'm not that much assertive gud,hehe..submissive ko sometimes.

    Thanks for the wonderful comments :)

    God Bless.

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